Blast from the past
I’d completely forgotten about this blog (well not completely, guilt will get you that way), but I had 2 little reminders today about it. One was a comment from a reader (Hi reader!) which prompted me to see if I could remember my login details, which I guess I do.
The other was an IRL aquaintance (the owner of my local cafe) confiding in me that after trying for 2 1/2 years with bad endo, she was finally seeing a fertility specialist to discuss IVF – co-incidently we think, the same FS who was responsible for transferring Lady G.
She had lots of questions for me, the most importantly of which was how to begin to have the discussion about going through treatment with friends and family who (and you all know this!) respond with platitudes of “just relax”, or even more helpfully, “I get pregnant at the drop of a hat!”.
I’d been very open about our treatment at the time, but haven’t talked about it much since. But I see now how helpful it was for me to be open about it, because it’s a way of passing it forward, to the next couple who think that they are the only ones going through this, with no-one who will understand.
I’ve suggested we catch up and talk more when she is ready, and in the meantime start where I started, by following some online journeys to realise she really isn’t alone. Now excuse me, but I have some blog-reading to catch up on!
More cooking!
We got The Bee a little kitchen for her birthday, and she is OBSESSED with it to the point that I can hear her calling this from behind her closed bedroom door each afternoon when she wakes from her nap. She will literally spend 5 hours a day putting things in the oven and taking them out, while we get fed on pizza, eggs and toast throughout the day. Most excellent present, and I am feeling rather chuffed with myself, seeing how much pleasure she’s getting from it, and how much it’s firing her imagination.
We went out today to spend her Nonnis’ birthday money on some additional items for it, only to discover that it would be twice the price of buying them on Amazon, even considering shipping. So Lady G will have to wait, but she has some very exciting gifties winging their way from the US:
I have plans to make some more things out of felt when I get the chance – wouldn’t some ravioli be awesome? – to complement the felt fruit and vegetables from Ikea that she’s had knocking around for a while.
Power of Tens
Week 32, and having worried me by being breech over the last 2 weeks, Io seems to have settled head down bum up, so looks like we are go for a natural delivery (my Ob automatically c-sections all breech babies, which I was keen to avoid).
So in the expectation that this is now going to happen, I’ve been researching TENS machines as a source of non-pharmacological pain relief during labour. Last time, I found it most comforting to be under the shower; the combination of warmth and the sensation of all the droplets really got me through the worst bits of active labour, and I was interested to see if the TENS machine could achieve the same thing. (We ended up running out of hot water last time, and having not clicked that I could simply put the plug to run a bath in I got quite distressed at the thought of having to get out!)
But, opinion seems divided about whether it will be helpful or not, and I’m still undecided whether to spend the $70-80 or not. From what I’ve read it can be helpful in early labour (but I managed though that quite easily, with breathing techniques, hypnobirthing and heat packs), but less so in advanced labour which is when I would be looking for a little extra boost. Much of the benefit seems like it’s purely psychosomatic – the perception of pain being less, rather than it actually delivering pain relief. Still, I guess that doesn’t sound too bad? Interested in the thoughts of anyone else who’s used one. My cousin in Holland has recommended it and say they are quite popular in The Netherlands where home birth is common (like last time, I hope to labour at home as long as possible before fronting up at the hospital for the Ob to play catch).
Mini me
The Bee had her 2 year checkup today; stats are 10.1kg, and 81.5cm tall. Going by the old myth that you double their age at 2 to find out what their adult height will be, she should expect to reach a grand height of 163cm, exactly the same as me. I think I will have to save all my designer heels for her, as she will both need, and be able to use them! And of course, now I have an additional reason to invest…
The prophecy didn’t say anything about this!
Lady G had her first major accident last night – fell over and chipped and loosened her front teeth on the bath while having her shower, so she’s looks like a Gelfling from The Dark Crystal this morning (poor Duckface!), and we’re on a month-long wait to see if she’s going to lose the teeth entirely, or whether they will manage to hold on in there.
The emergency dentist last night (and some pedi-dentist links from the web) suggest that baby teeth handle this sort of trauma better than permanent teeth, but it’s still a worry given her permanent teeth won’t come in for another 4-5 years – that’s a long time without them in terms of eating and speaking, let alone the cosmetic impact. So we wait and see, and meantime she’s on a diet of soft food for the next few days until her gums firm up enough to keep her teeth in place.
I can’t get over the feeling of how fragile she is this morning. Other than feeling like her mouth is ‘stuck’ she seems unaware and is charging around eating and dancing and running as normal, while I’m finding it really hard not to want to be following around with a large mattress in case she tips over again.
I have to confess I’m angry with The Baron as he was on watch and had turned to get a towel – I know it could have very easily been me and it’s an accident and all, but I just want to be mad at someone! This is probably just the first of many broken bones and scars to follow for both kids, and he’s feeling horribly guilty and I don’t mean to blame him, I’m sure it’s just stress about what will happen to her over the next few weeks.
Mad pregnancy hormones though – I held it together while comforting her and managing to find an emergency dentist at 8pm on a Sat night, getting there and all through her checkup, and then lost it in the car ride on the way home.
Whereas The Bee was cool as a cucumber once she got over the initial pain, and was quite happy chatting to the registrar about how Daddy was parking the car, and singing Turkle Turkle Little Star in the back seat to and from.
I’m back!
One of The Bee’s favourite things these days is to do her version of the old Sesame Street near…far….near…far as she runs the length of the house and back again (I’m back!). And so am I, after neglecting this blog shamefully. Excuses, I’ve had a few – we went away on our trip to Vanuatu (blissful), have been very busy at work (stressful) and have had 2 follow up scans on Io which have given us the all clear (wonderful).
So we’re 6 months along today, and things are going well – the heartburn I suffered from dreadfully last time is much more mild this time and other than feeling rather breathless at times, it feels good to be in the home stretch.
The Bee is also progressing well – some little switch in her brain has recently gone off and she’s become a real chatterbox, copying every word we say like a parrot and introducing a lot of her own which we had no idea she knew.
She’s also showing a lot of interest in the new baby, giving my tummy lots of hugs and kisses and talking about it quite a bit. Miss N’s new baby brother showed up a few weeks ago and I think that’s been really fascinating to her and perhaps making her really aware of what is about to happen. If only I was – still panicking at the thought of 2, although Miss N’s mum seems to be taking it all in her stride which is encouraging. 3 others from my mums group have also recently announced pregnancies, so I won’t be left to bumble though this alone!
Half baked
20 week scan today, and I was all prepared to hear the wonderful words I heard with Lady G “perfectly normal’. It seems we have to wait a few weeks to hopefully hear that. Io was apparently uncooperative during the scan and the sonographer wasn’t able to see the heart clearly – what presented appeared to be an enlarged ventricle, and he couldn’t jog the baby to get a better view to see whether this was really the case or not.
So we’re scheduled in for another scan in 3 weeks, when the heart should be bigger and easier to see. Both the sonographer and our Ob have told us not to worry, and I guess the fact that we’ve not been referred to a specialist or requiring a special scan suggests that it’s likely to be nothing. Luckily there seems to be very little info when I google, which is preventing me from fearing the worst! Otherwise, all appeared to be good – and now we wait.
(Nine, as usual, nyet to The Units until we know for sure what we’re dealing with.)
Are you there?
I think I felt Io today; at 16.5 weeks it’s about the right time. I admit it will be reassuring when the movement gets more regular and identifiable since it makes it easier to know everything is going OK in there. I had my 16 week checkup last week and they couldn’t find the heartbeat with the external monitor. Apparently not surprising this early, but I was relieved when Io showed up nice and strong and moving with a good heartbeat on the ultrasound they did afterwards.
I’m also beginning to get very nervous at the thought of looking after the 2 kids by myself. Lady G is into running away at the moment, unabashed by traffic or losing me in a crowd and I worry how I will cope if she does that while I’m distracted or busy with the baby. Recommendations from people with experience vary from keeping the baby in a sling all the time (likely) to never leaving the house (less appealing). Fingers crossed 6 months will make a big difference to G’s ability to listen to commands (and obey!!)